This past Wednesday I went to Cat LaCohie Intro to Burlesque class and learned something new regarding confidence, nervousness, and shyness. (And Also sexiness.)
What I wasn’t expecting from the class was to get, maybe the BEST TIP EVER TO BEING CONFIDENT:
Pretend like everyone around you is a person YOU created.
When you take this mind frame you CAN’T do anything wrong in front of them – they are a part of your world, you put them there for your purposes – to be your audience. They are a figment of your imagination.
That “picture your audience naked” thing never helped me feel more confident, but this ONE tip – I’ve just run with. It has changed the way I feel about making eye contact with strangers on the street.
It’s made me bolder, and sassier as I move through the world and I used it while working on VO in the booth with an engineer and a stranger sitting in (which I’ve found intimidating in the past), and also at an audition I had on Friday and felt GREAT about my relation to the other people!
When thinking about why my mind so instantly took hold of this concept with ease, because my logical mind always filters things heavily – it occurred to me that other people, as we experience them, really ARE a figment of our imagination. We only can tell a fraction from what they look like, what they say, etc. We make up the rest.
So instead of making up that they are others judging you – make up that they are YOUR creation – your very APPRECIATIVE creation. Even if they ignore you or throw you some shade – it is because YOU created them to be a character in your world that does that so you could bounce off that with an “I’ll show you” comeback.
Sexiness – I went to the class because I need to work on feeling comfortable being sexy in front of other people – hiding from street harassment since the age of 12 had taught me to camouflage under men’s clothes and create walls and stiffen in response to male attention.
As an actress (and I just had this conversation with another actress who felt similarly), we should really not leave work on sexiness out if we KNOW that is an issue. Who wants to run away from scenes or write themselves off when a part requires brazen sensuality or seduction?
So, I’d encourage all Actor’s who hear it oft repeated that as women our “F-ability” is a factor in casting to remember not to overlook this and take control of that in SOME way. Be it a class, reading articles, watching youtube thingies, experimenting with going out in certain clothing, etc.